What you should and shouldn't do when someone insults you?

  

What you should and shouldn't do when someone insults you?

There is a story about Gautama Buddha. You may have heard the story.

A man used to insult Gautama Buddha almost every day with various harsh words. But Gautama Buddha was never embarrassed by that person's words. Even after insulting him so much, he did not reply back. One day Gautama Buddha was asked why he did not say anything to the man in response to his insults. He simply replied, If someone gives you a gift and you refuse to take it, who will the gift be?

What does insult actually mean? To insult someone is to speak disrespectfully or treat them badly.

In general, insults can be of two types.

1. Killing someone in front of everyone,

2. Verbal abuse

Now the question is, what is verbal abuse? Insulting someone directly or through words is called verbal abuse. For example, commenting on someone's physical or habitual behavior, imitating someone's words or gestures, etc.

In the course of life you can never please everyone at the same time. This is normal. Some people will like you and some people will dislike you.

And the person who dislikes you can be your relatives, friends or someone at work. They are the ones who try to insult you in various ways to belittle you.

And if someone is insulting to hurt and not just for fun, then the situation becomes really painful and embarrassing.

But what do you do if you are insulted like this?

Will you insult him in return? Or sit upset? Or just walk away and ignore him?

If you know what to do when someone insults you, you can handle such social situations well. Assessing the situation, reacting appropriately and seeking help from others when necessary will help you overcome the fear of being humiliated.

Cause to be insulted

When someone tries to insult you, the first question that comes to mind is why is he trying to insult you? In this case, there can be 4 reasons-

1. Insecurity

People who try to belittle others with various harsh words usually have a negative mindset. There are many people who are always insecure about themselves. They cannot think of anything good about themselves. So they try to please themselves by belittling others.

Let's give an example in this case. Suppose your sister is always worried about whether she looks good or what everyone thinks of her.

So he tries to belittle you by commenting on your looks or how you dress or how your marks are in school etc. But actually he does it to satisfy himself.

 

2. Jealousy

The 2nd reason for insulting someone is jealousy. People who are jealous of you make fun of you or insult you. Jealousy is a very important reason behind insulting someone.

Jealous people feel they are not getting enough credit for their work. So they always try to insult those who have more credit than them.

For example, your office boss likes you more than your colleagues. As a result, your colleagues may become jealous of you.

As a result, he may make negative comments about your dress or work or even the presentation you make to belittle you.

3. not understand

Understanding a person's disability is not easy for everyone. As a result, many times the abuser unwittingly comments on the person's disability. So he doesn't realize how his comments are affecting the person.

Suppose a boy in school has trouble speaking or he suffers from a stuttering problem. And his classmates are making fun of him without understanding the problem.

But if they realized the boy really had trouble speaking, they wouldn't make fun of the boy anymore.

4. have fun

The last reason could be that others make fun of you because they like you. That means there are some people who really like you and think you can make fun of anything.

For example, your cousin always calls you fat because you are healthy. In this case, his intention is not to hurt you. Even if you feel bad for his comments, his intention is just to make fun.

 

What to do if someone insults you

1. Don't get angry

The weakest reaction when someone insults you is to show anger. If angry in this case, the insulter is sure of 3 things-

a. You took the insulter's comments too seriously,

b. There is truth in his words and

c. You are frustrated, hurt by the detractor's comments.

As a result, the abuser is encouraged to abuse you again. So never get angry if someone insults you.

2. keep calm

  When someone insults you, the best course of action is to not respond at all. Because the purpose of insulting the abuser is to make you feel frustrated or angry or broken.

So always try to keep yourself calm. Do not respond even if you are very angry or upset. Otherwise the insulter's purpose of insulting you will succeed and he will be encouraged to insult you again in the future.

So take a few deep breaths before responding. Keep your mind calm. This will allow the abuser to toughen himself up enough to respond.

3. Ignore

If someone insults you, ignoring the insulter is another effective way. Because, the insulter's intention is to impress you with his words.

But if you ignore his insults, he will realize that you are not impressed by his words. As a result, the insulter will lose the motivation to insult you again.

Now the question is, how do you ignore insulting someone? In this case you can change the topic of conversation or walk away from it or ignore him and talk to someone else.

For example, you are at work and your colleague is making fun of the presentation you made. But you want to ignore it.

So you can either get up and walk away to ignore him or start talking about some other project that is not related to the previous project.

Again, you can change the topic to something else, pretending you didn't hear him at all.

 

4. Express what you feel

Make it clear to the person who repeatedly insults you, how his behavior is affecting you. Speak in a firm but calm voice and explain why you don't like their behavior.

For example, if your friend repeatedly makes bad comments about you, tell them that you are not happy with what they are doing. And this behavior of his is having a bad effect on you.

Again, if your co-worker keeps insulting you, tell him that his behavior is interfering with your work. And if he does it again, you will report the matter to the authorities.

5. Be prepared for the situation

If every day you have to spend time with someone who repeatedly insults you, get ready from now on.

Make a plan of how you will handle the situation. Think about how you should react in such a situation. As a result, you can handle the situation easily.

For example, a friend of yours might keep telling you that he doesn't like your haircut. And you look worse.

Then you can agree with him and say, yes, you are right. But I like this cut. And I will do what I like.

6. Give feedback from the comic juice

Perhaps the most effective way to respond to someone's insults is with humor. So when someone makes fun of you, try to make fun of them too.

And that means throwing his insults at him. But of course you have to say it very softly and calmly so that they don't feel bad.

Humor can lighten a heavy situation. So if someone insults you, try to make fun of it.

Now you must understand what you should and should not do when someone insults you. So what method do you adopt in such a situation? Don't forget to share your experience with us too.